| Location | Ebbw Vale |
| Age | 45 years |
| Date of Birth | 9/1959 |
| Date of Death | 9/2004 |
| Visitors | 316 since 28/05/2008 |
| Creator |
Ann Smith - Mitchell was born in cwm but lived in Hilltop with her 2 daughters Rachel and Sarah and her husband Clinton
Ann was diagnosied with bowel cancer in 2001 an was told she only had 6 months 2 live! But bein the strong woman that she was she fought it for 3 years b4 she finally gave in!
We never knew this tragic end was coming as she told her family she was getting ova it! So when the end finally came it was a shock 2 us all!!
My mother fought the last year of her life alone as not 2 cause us anymore pain!
That was the type of woman she was caring and always putting other peoples feelings b4 her own!!
We miss u mam an always think bout u everyday!!
Love u loads Rachel x x x x
from someone who cares
chris griffiths from ebbw vale relation: friend
The Pit of Grief
The day my child died, I fell into the pit of grief. My friends watched me struggle through daily life; waiting for the person I once was to arise from the pit, not realizing 'she' is gone forever.
The pit is full of darkness, heartache and despair; it paralyzes your thoughts, movements and ability to ration. The pit leaves you forever changed, unable to surface the person you once were.
Some of my pre-grief friends gather around the top of the pit, waiting for the old me to appear before their eyes, not understanding what’s taking me so long to emerge. After all, in their eyes, I’ve been in the pit for quite sometime. Yet in my eyes, it seems as if I fell in only yesterday.
Not all of my pre-grief friends are gathered around the top of the pit. Some are helping me with the climb out of the darkness. They climb side by side with me from time to time, but mostly they climb ahead of me, waiting patiently at each plateau. Even with these friends I sometimes wonder if they are also waiting for the pre-grief me to magically appear before their eyes.
Then there are the casual acquaintances, you know the ones who say 'Hi, how are you?' when they really don't care or really want to know. These are the people who sigh in relief, that is my child who died and not theirs. You know ... the 'better them, than me' attitude.
My post-grief friends are the ones who climb with me, side by side, inch by inch, out of the pit of grief. They have no way of comparing the pit climbed to the pre-grief person I once was. You see, they started at the bottom of the pit with me. They are able to reassure me when I need reassurance, rest when I need resting, and encourage me to move forward when I don't have the strength. They have no expectations, no memories and no recollection of how I 'should' be. They want me to get better, to smile more often and find joy in life, but they also accepted the person I’ve become. The 'person' who is emerging from the pit.
forever in our hearts
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